You Can Stop Pretending You Don't Care About Travis and Taylor

Guys, I know I don't have to tell you that Taylor Swift came to the Chiefs game this past week to see Travis Kelce play. She even sat with his Mom. Looked like she had a good time, too. And apparently some of her fans are starting to follow the Chiefs when they didn't before, so that's always fun. If those two end up dating, good for them.

But seriously.

All of you that keep posting on social media about how "you don't wanna hear about this because you don't care" can stop. Just stop.

Full disclosure, I don't have a dog in this fight. NJ loves the Chiefs, and it's part of my job to know a little bit about it, but I don't have that competitive thing in me that makes me care who wins or who loses when it comes to sportyball of any kind. Baseball, hockey, ping pong, I don't mind. I can enjoy the game, but... I don't care who wins or loses. And yeah, I'm a music nerd. I can tell you the story behind the song a lot of the time, and I'm always the person that gets asked the music questions at the charity trivia night. But I'm not a Swiftie. She's fine, I don't have any strong feelings for or against her. She has a few songs I've liked, but I've never bought an album of hers.

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At least a few times now, I've seen people complaining about how they don't care about her going to the game or how they don't need updates on this, etc. Sure. Here's the thing though - the opposite of love isn't hate. It's indifference. If you really didn't care about this, you wouldn't have anything to say about it. You'd just keep scrolling. It wouldn't cross your mind for longer than a moment. So the real truth is you DO care, you just want to Pretend you don't. For example, I don't have any stake in the world of competitive bowling. So, I don't go out of my way to post to social media telling everyone about how "I DON'T CARE ABOUT BOWLING, STOP TRYING TO PUSH IT ON ME!!"

Because, you see, if I did that, people would think I was ridiculous. Because it's obvious. Nobody is pushing competitive bowling on me. Just like nobody is pushing Kelce/Swift stories on you. Ignore it and move on if you really don't care. If you hear a report on it on the news, ignore it. If you see an article on it, scroll past. Nobody forced you to click on this article. Nobody forced you to comment on that TikTok.

A lot of this is people trying to pretend they're better than everyone that does care about this by acting like this story is beneath them. Like, they have to go out of their way to tell you how much they don't care about this thing you're interested in, and THAT is the part of this that bothers me. You're not better than anybody else, and neither am I.

I admit, like I said, I don't have a dog in this fight. But I'll admit that I'm nosy AF. I'll own that. So sure, if someone in sports is going to talk about who they're dating in the press, I'm gonna listen, 'cos I'm nosy. I might forget about it the next day, but I'll listen. I'm not gonna pretend I'm better than anybody else or that people who like sports are beneath my high falutin' and intellectual pursuits (that was sarcastic, just to be clear). That's definitely a lot of what this is, let's just be real - people are upset that something a lot of women like is interfering in their traditionally masculine pursuit. She's not hurting anything by going to a game. He's not going to stop playing well because she's there. She's not going to be a bad luck charm, because that's hooey and deep down, each and every one of you know it.

And, while I'm at it, it's also hooey to judge her for writing songs about her relationships, because men do that literally all the time and nobody bats an eye. Ed Sheeran, Mick Jagger, Justin Timberlake, Bruce Springsteen, Bob Dylan, John Mayer, Harry Nillson, Daryl Hall, Sam Smith, John Lennon, Elvis Costello, they've all done it, and those are just the ones I can think of off the top of my head! Heck, Lindsey Buckingham wrote mean break up songs with his full chest about Stevie Nicks (his ex) while he was still in the band with her. They wrote songs with each other, ABOUT each other. They sang them on stage night after night, staring at each other while they did it for DECADES. Don't believe me? Have another listen to Rumors. Or if you really like the drama, watch the last minute or so of that clip. So if Taylor writes a song about it, big whoop. It's her story, not yours. You're not forced to listen to it.

And the thing is - if you DO say something, even if you comment "I hate this", any social media algorithm will bring you more content exactly like that. Even if you leave a hate comment. It'll figure you cared enough to comment, so either you love it, or you love to hate it.

Don't care? Don't say anything. The more you say or comment, the more it's gonna wrap back to you. If you start telling me how much you DON'T care, well. Methinks thou protest too much.

That's just my opinion, though.

Nosily yours,
Behka